0800730836
Trade Paperback
192 pages
Sep 2005
Revell/Baker

Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Dating

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Keep part of your life to yourself
You’ve had a lifetime to experience your life, don’t shove it all down his throat in one phone call. Give him time to digest.
Limit your phone calls
The rule of thumb in managing your communication with the guy you want to land is this: keep the phone calls short. Leave him wanting more.
No last minute dates
If he calls for a Saturday night date on Friday then he’s either at the end of his list or just a really lousy planner. Either way, he needs to understand that you are not a last minute date. It’s really hard to say no to a date, any date, but you have to be strategic in becoming a woman of mystery.
Don’t whine
The male psyche is such that when you whine he hears “you aren’t doing things right.” His need to care for you is obliterated when you whine about things…it makes him feel like he is to blame for your discomfort.
Don’t talk about other women
Gossip…you have to admit, it can be fun. Though we know it’s bad, it’s still something we can’t often resist. But when it comes to men, lay off. What they hear when you talk bad about another woman is your insecurity.

Don’t tell her you love her too early on
Make sure she is dying to hear you say it before you ever do.
Don’t get too far ahead of her emotionally
Women love a guy who knows how to lead…but get too far ahead of her emotionally and you lose.
Don’t talk more than her
Sure a girl loves a guy who talks with her, but she also likes to be heard. So don’t try to compete with her in the area of talking.
Have a life
Guys who suddenly make the girl their entire life are boring. Girls want to see you with your friends, playing sports, working on cars…whatever. Just have a life so she doesn’t feel like she has to support you emotionally. That’s your job for her, not hers for you. (early in the dating relationship)