What now? The kids are grown and gone. Still Going It Alone: Mothering with Faith and Finesse When the Children Have Grown by Michele Howe is here to help you deal with the transition. No more arguments about curfews, SAT scores, bad-driving habits, homework, or Saturday morning clean-your-room frenzies? Many single mothers, who have devoted their lives to rearing their children, often feel lost when their children grow up and leave the nest. These mothers have spent so many unselfish hours mothering and providing for their children that they’ve forgotten how to have a life for themselves, and they find parenting a grown child different and challenging. Howe’s book targets single moms whose children have moved on and out. (This book is a sequel to Michele’s book, Going it Alone, which is for single moms rearing younger children.)
Michele’s positive self-help book will show women how to acclimate to these new crossroads by giving them examples of how other moms became more aware mentally and spiritually. A few of the chapter topics are: entering the crossroads, relating to in-laws, instilling financial stability, grandparenting, and caring for aging parents. Each chapter begins with a Scripture quote and consists of different real-life stories of struggling women, a step-by-step section on how to adjust to changes and set positive action plans, a mother’s prayer, and a thought for the day.
This book is well organized, but it’s easy for readers to get confused as to which character each story is about because there are so many different stories within each chapter. This isn’t a “quick-read” sort of book. The benefit to the reader will be greatly improved if she takes her time to reflect on and absorb each chapter’s message. This is a great reference book — one that mothers will want to keep handy as their lives continue to change — to reflect on over and over again. The back of the book also contains recommended resources for further reading and spiritual growth.
Chapter Six’s Bible verse is from 2 Timothy 1:7. It says, "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." I recommend this book for mothers who are looking for a boost with this parenting transition. Be prepared to journey with proactive single moms who look at this new parenting quest as an opportunity to grow and embrace change through the power, love and self-discipline that God has given us. -- Michelle Weidenbenner, www.ChristianBookPreviews.com
Still Going It Alone addresses issues common to women who have been at the task of single parenting for some seasons. These unique women now face the prospect of sending their children off to college, to a distant career site, or to be married and must continue to fulfill their ever-altering parental role. Moms with grown children also realize the need for wise financial planning and career re-assessment. Each single mom understands they may never re-marry, that growing old and retiring alone is a very real possibility. For many, the future looms in uncertainty. This resource book will provide practical hope and continually redirect women to the source of all comfort, God and His Word.