In Blueprints for a Solid Marriage, Dr. Steve Stephens compares the marriage relationship to a house. Like a house that is in disrepair, a marriage that is neglected starts losing value. Every marriage can be improved. It will take togetherness and a willingness to give effort to “repair, remodel, and clean up.”
Stephens suggests a yearly walk-through, comparing twelve areas of a marriage to rooms in a house: the entryway is compared to commitment projects; the closets to emotional projects; the kitchen to practical projects; the dining room to social projects; the family room to recreational projects; and the foundation to spiritual projects. At the end of each chapter, the reader is given projects and exercises that will improve the quality and value of the particular area. These projects are aimed at improving togetherness for the couples who have embarked on their walk-through. At the end of the book is an appraisal checklist designed to help determine what areas are strongest and what areas are in immediate need.
The reader feels a sense of compassion from Stephens’ writing. He is a friend who is offering his advice and help for building a better marriage. From his own marriage and his practice as a marriage counselor, Stephens illustrates how each area of marriage can be enhanced. Some will require more work than others, but each room should be examined for possible attention.
The most important area is spiritual togetherness. “It is the foundation of everything else. If it’s not solid, sooner or later, you will be in trouble. The ultimate goal and peak experience of marriage is spiritual togetherness. Anything else reduces the relationship to mediocrity.”
Blueprints for a Solid Marriage would be an excellent resource for any couple wanting their marriage to become enriched. It will take togetherness, courage, and commitment, but the end result is well worth the effort. Stephens becomes a good friend by the time the book is finished. He really wants to see marriages grow and thrive. If you want a solid marriage, Stephens issues the invitation, “Grab your partner’s hand, open the front door and let’s begin your marriage walk-through.” – Rick Borgman, Christian Book Previews.com
“A solid marriage is the foundation for a strong family.”
A marriage is like a house. It requires time, effort, and regular maintenance. In this unique, do-it-yourself guide to “home” improvement, you will receive immediate, practical assistance. Whether it’s simply light remodeling, minor repairs, or major reconstruction, Blueprints for a Solid Marriage helps you quickly assess and enhance your relationship by laying the foundation for marital bliss with engaging stories and a detailed plan for “marriage improvement projects.”
the family room: ideas for sparking fun
the bedroom: deepening intimacy
the study: tips for intellectual closeness
the storm cellar: handling crisis and reconciliation
With 12 rooms to appraise, there are more than 50 practical projects for you to work on together to build a more solid marriage.