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Aug 2006
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Respectful Kids: The Complete Guide to Bringing Out the Best in Your Child

by Todd Cartmell

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Review:

Respect! Such an old-fashioned word. How can we raise respectful kids in a society that sports figures of little boys urinating on a symbol of something the owners dislike? Where slams replace humor on comedies? Where popular athletes make obscene gestures at their fans?

Dr. Todd Cartmell offers some positive ideas in Respectful Kids. A child psychologist, he offers several tools, such as fast listening, flexible thinking, and problem solving. He suggests carrots in the form of tying fun to respectful behavior, heavy doses of praise, and behavioral contracts. For sticks he promotes time outs, logical consequences, positive practice, and consistency.

Cartmell's basic position is that children must be trained to be respectful. It's hard to argue with that, but his noncommittal position on spanking is weak. He stretches some Scripture, such as Proverbs 23:13-14 (“Withhold not corrections from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell”) to say that "it's important to note that not once does the Bible command us to spank our children" (p. 187). He starts another passage on discipline after a verse that says God "chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth." (Hebrews 12:6) He goes on to stress the dangers inherent in spanking and that spanking without training is not a solution, and I wholly agree with both. He also states that he and his wife used spankings for certain transgressions when their children were younger.

However, the book is not primarily about spanking, but about other strategies for teaching respect and self-control. Drawing on his experiences as a psychologist and a parent, he explains his techniques with anecdotes. Each chapter ends with a summary and a study section to help the parent utilize the method discussed. These end sections include related Scripture.

Cartmell writes well. The book is upbeat and interesting. Though he does not discuss limiting the examples of disrespect the child sees, such as certain TV shows or playing with some children, his techniques deserve consideration. His emphasis on training is very important in a society which practically advocates letting children raise themselves or letting institutions do it for you. – Debbie W. Wilson, Christian Book Previews.com

Book Jacket:

How will you teach your kids to be respectful rather than rude?

If you're a parent, you-like millions of other parents-may befrustrated by the daily battles in your home and concerned aboutsociety's slide into rudeness. Simply put, you want to learn how toteach your child to handle everyday situations in a respectful way.

In Raising Respectful Kids, family coach and child psychiatrist Dr.Todd Cartmell offers you a proven three-part strategy that can transform family relationships through the power of respect. His biblically based techniques will equip you to help your children breaktheir disrespectful habits and instead nurture respectful behaviors. Not only will these techniques strengthen your family, they'll prepare your children for godly maturity and successful relationships in adulthood. You'll learn specific, simple, and practical approaches forcreating behavior change, teaching your kids the right lesson in the right way. Your children will learn crucial skills such as fast listening, flexible thoughts, and on-the-spot problem solving. And you'll discover how to make respectful behavior fun.

Let Dr. Cartmell show you how to give your children the tools they need to succeed, God's way.