Dear Mom by Melody Carlson is a great resource for any mother trying to build a relationship and reach understanding with her teenage daughter. Not everyone has the gift of decoding teenage angst and sarcasm. Melody Carlson is one of those rare people who has a close and accurate grasp on teenage girls' minds. For those who don't, this book is a must.
A favorite Bible verse of most parents is Ephesians 6:1, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” Dear Mom illustrates the next part: Ephesians 6:4, “Fathers [and mothers], do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Are you ready to enter the mind of your teenage daughter and see what she has learned from you? The book is written in chapters with subsections told from a teenage daughter's point of view. Dear Momtries to illustrate one possible answer to the question, “What would daughters share with their mothers if they could speak without fear of judgment or punishment?”
For the most part the advice is relevant, clear, and creatively presented, instead of just throwing information in front of the reader to sort out. The book can't possibly speak to every situation, but it, nevertheless, is solid for a generalization. There are multiple topics and subtopics covered in the book, including spirituality, sexuality, communication, and relationships. Carlson, to keep the reader from getting lost, writes in a circular pattern, tying the middle to the beginning and then continuing forward. The style of the book makes the reader really feel like he or she is in the head of a teenage girl.
Whereas the book is directed toward mothers, I would recommend it to fathers as well, because the information learned is so useful. Teens and people just leaving their teens should be able to relate easily to most of the information presented. This book is not the complete answer to all teen problems, but it is a starting point for the journey ahead. – Rebekah Mosolf, www.ChristianBookPreviews.com
Raising a teen daughter can be like trying to chart a course underwater. You can drown in an ocean of one-word answers, defensive conversations, and unpredictable outbursts, and never get anywhere. Popular teen girls’ novelist Melody Carlson helps you cut through murky, deep, uncharted and seemingly unsafe waters so you can hear what your daughter’s really trying to tell you through her anger, silence, and mixed messages:
“I need you, but I won’t admit it.”
“I’m not as confident as I appear.”
“I have friends. I need a mother.”
Instead of focusing on outward behaviors, Dear Mom captures your daughter’s heart and soul. You can know your daughter’s hopes and fears, doubts and dreams about her identity, guys, friendships, and even you. And you can connect on a deeper, more intimate level that will carry both you and your daughter through the stormy seas of life.