Surprised by Remarriage by Ginger Kolbaba is a book of advice for those looking to remarry. The subtitle says it is a guide to the “happily-even-after.” The chances of a second marriage lasting can be greatly increased when individuals take steps to face the mistakes they made the first time around. Ginger Kolbaba is her husband’s second wife and so is able to offer firsthand advice that speaks to real issues she has encountered in a second marriage. She is also an editor of the Marriage Partnership magazine.
The book is divided into three parts with 15 chapters in all. Part I is titled The Past, which deals with the grief of failure and the previous marriage, learning to change, forgiveness and trust, facing the stigma that comes with divorce, and remarriage. Part II is called The Field of Schemes—navigating a way with all the others. In its four chapters the author speaks about dealing with ex-spouses, stepchildren, extended family members, and friends. Part III is titled Your Marriage—you and your spouse. This section deals with the issues of communication, sex, money, housing, and where to go to church. Each chapter ends with a “for even after” segment containing special notes of advice, or ideas for action that pertain to that chapter’s subject.
For example, in chapter two the CSI Divorce guides the reader through a thoughtful examination of the preceding divorce and its causes. Kolbaba admonishes the individual to look at his or her role in the situation. What he may have done wrong, and how to prevent the same injuries to the new marriage. The author deals with overcoming anger, disappointments, grief at the death of the previous marriage, and challenges to faith.
Overall, it is well laid-out on the subject of remarriage. Many American church-going Christians are divorced and a large proportion of them remarry. This book points the way to overcoming obstacles to build a strong marriage the second time around. – Elece Hollis, Christian Book Previews.com
Your second marriage can not only survive--it can thrive.
Getting married is an exciting time of anticipation and joy. It is also a time of blending two lives together to make one. Successfully combining lives in a second marriage can be challenging. From unresolved hurts and unshared histories to resentful stepkids and bitter exes, there can be many obstacles to couples in search of happiness the second time around.
But you can have a happy and lasting relationship despite divorce in your past. With refreshing candor and uplifting stories, author Ginger Kolbaba, herself a second wife, offers practical guidance for those seeking a joyful remarriage. Her step-by-step plan will renew your belief in the power of love to transcend shattered dreams.