How do you keep from engaging in sexual immorality? Where exactly is the line that delineates the wrong from the right? And what about those who have already fallen into destructive relationships and behaviors? Can they yet reclaim an element of virginity…technically speaking? These are a few of the questions Hayley DiMarco confronts and tries to respond to in her latest attempt at a purity book, Technical Virgin: How Far is Too Far? However, for the most part, she misses the mark.
Instead of getting to the root of the problem, Technical Virgin provides only obvious, superficial answers. Instead of advising young women to guard their hearts and pursue Christ and offering specific lessons from the Bible, DiMarco merely identifies the consequences of sexual immorality and, of course, where to draw the line.
Though she tries to relate to her teenage audience, her book comes off sounding more like a research project because it is filled with dictionary definitions, sociological and psychological terms, and endless statistics. While she does give solid evidence that non-marital sexual activity has negative results and is not condoned by Scripture, she loses her credibility through sweeping generalizations and statements whose only proof is either her own personal opinion or because “that’s just the way it is.”
The main problem of Technical Virgin can be found in the subtitle. The question “how far is too far?” focuses too much on following a list of do’s and don’ts than on changing the heart. The Bible has much to say about premarital purity, personal discipline, sexual fulfillment, and genuine love. None of those lessons are examined or shared in this book. In trying so hard to speak to younger women on a level DiMarco assumes we are locked in at, she underestimates our desire to learn more about God’s perfect plan for our lives. This book offers some starting points for discussion in regard to this topic, but it does not provide the solid foundation of godly edification we young women of faith are seeking to obtain. – Elizabeth Goldsmith, Christian Book Previews.com
Pledging abstinence until marriage can be dangerous.
Huh?! You read that right! The reality is that while you may have decided to save sex for marriage, you may still be having physical encounters--just not going all the way. But being a "technical virgin" isn't just risky--did you know you could still contract an STD or get pregnant?--it can wreak havoc on your emotions and your spirit. Even innocent playing around, like back rubs or tickle fights, could be setting the stage for something more. Hayley DiMarco explains why.
Technical Virgin also answers questions you might be afraid to ask.
Knowing when to draw the line will help save you the pain "everything but sex" can bring. This book can help you start over with a clean slate if you've already "messed up" and keep your purity intact if you're just starting to get physical with guys. Because purity doesn't have room for compromise