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Trade Paperback
272 pages
Sep 2011

Grace for the Good Girl

by Emily Freeman

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In Grace for the Good Girl: Letting Go of the Try-Hard Life, Emily P. Freeman takes on the challenge of communicating with Christian girls and women who seem to have their lives put together. In essence, she's talking to the “good girls.”

Separating the book into three parts, Freeman first tackles the different ways good girls hide, devoting each chapter to a different way, including hiding behind a good reputation or offering a less-than-truthful response to everything of, “Fine.” She concludes the first part of the book with a full-out “Game Over” chapter in which Hide and Seek is done away with. The second part of the book is devoted on how the “good girl” can discover who she really is, after being lost for so long under the pressure and weight of having to sustain a perfect life. Each chapter in this section is centered on different parts of the journey, including receiving truth, responding to service, and remembering one's identity in Christ. The third and final section of the book contains chapters reminding the reader (the good girl) that, no matter what happens, she is safe. She is safe when hurting, when she fails, and even when she doesn’t feel safe.

With gut-wrenching honesty, genuine love, and comfort that rise from the pages, Freeman uses numerous examples from her life and the lives of women she has helped to show that she and they have been where many good girls now find themselves. Freeman has overcome and conquered former doubts and fears, and now she is helping others do the same through counseling, prayer, friendship, and Bible study. She writes, “As a good girl, every choice I made was dictated by a theology of self-sufficiency. Life was up to me, and I was prepared to get it right.” Having escaped that false reality, she now wishes to convey through this truly heartfelt book the message that girls don’t have to hide anymore, because Christ can sustain them.

This book is biblically sound and very pragmatic. It is different from other books for women because instead of a whole book on how to be “good,” this book proclaims the loving grace of God upon those who feel imperfect. The book stresses that Jesus asks His daughters to come and be loved. This book is definitely one for girls and women of any age who have grown up in the church and have, at one time or another, felt burdened by their reputation and the rules and responsibilities that come from being a good girl. – Demelza N. Ramirez,

Book Jacket:

You're strong. You're responsible. You're good. But . . .

. . . as day fades to dusk, you begin to feel the familiar fog of anxiety, the weight and pressure of holding it together and of longing left unmet. Good girls sometimes feel that the Christian life means doing hard work with a sweet disposition. We tend to focus only on the things we can handle, our disciplined lives, and our unshakable good moods.

But what would happen if we let grace pour out boundless acceptance into our worn-out hearts and undo us? If we dared to talk about the ways we hide, our longing to be known, and the fear in the knowing?

In Grace for the Good Girl, Emily Freeman invites you to release your tight hold on that familiar, try-hard life and lean your weight heavy into the love of Jesus. With an open hand, a whimsical style, and a heart bent brave toward adventure, Emily encourages you to move from your own impossible expectations toward the God who has graciously, miraculously, and lovingly found you.