If you are a man who has walked his daughter down the aisle to hand her over to her groom (and I am such a man), then Robert Wolgemuth's She Still Calls Me Daddy will be something you will be able to resonate with. Half of the book is Wolgemuth's personal memories of rearing his two daughters, establishing family traditions, seeing the girls grow up and fall in love, giving them away as brides, and then enjoying becoming a five-time grandfather. The other half of the book consists of suggestions and guides on how to encourage a married daughter in her new role as a wife, how to give her the freedom she deserves, how to make a son-in-law feel valued and respected, and how to rediscover one's wife now that the two of you are a couple (only) once again after several decades of having been hands-on parents.
Wolgemuth often comes by his superb advice based on times when he has made a complete fool of himself. He tells the story of how he was such a dictatorial drill sergeant at this daughter's wedding rehearsal, he wound up making his daughter burst into tears and everyone lose all their joy at the event. He tells about the time he volunteered to help with some remodeling at his daughter's home, but then went overboard by telling them how and where they should mount the pictures on their walls.
In short, Wolgemuth knows what he's talking about because frequently he did it the wrong way and now wants to warn his male readers, "Don't go there." Some episodes are both funny and painful, such as the time when he challenged his two son-in-laws to two afternoons of racketball, to prove to them he was still young and tough. He played very well -- and damaged the muscles in his right arm so severely, he was in rehab for more than two years!
This book is not a series of sermons, but the author does draw upon biblical lessons (most from the Old Testament) in showing how to be a good husband, dad, father-in-law, and overall role model. One very poignant scene is a recollection of when Wolgemuth's very strict, conservative, authoritarian father visited the home of his married granddaughter and spotted a wine rack in the kitchen. Just the notion that his granddaughter would allow any form of alcohol into her home made the old man numb with anger. He later confronted his son about it, but the son made it plain that when a daughter leaves her parents to cleave to her husband, they become their own family, with their own rules. Parents (and certainly grandparents) have no right to barge in and try to run their lives. It's biblical.
This is not the kind of smarmy, sappy book designed to made readers cry. Instead, it is a story of one man's personal journey into a new phase of life of no longer being the "go to guy" in his daughters' lives, yet still being important to them. It's a book that is honest, pragmatic, and on target. – Dr. Dennis E. Hensley, www.ChristianBookPreviews.com
Standing at the altar giving their little girl away begins a new day and the need for a new way for fathers to relate to their daughters. Robert Wolgemuth, author of the best-selling She Calls Me Daddy, reminds fathers of the important role they still play while offering insight as to how it must change in the next chapter of their girls' lives. Topics cover seven relational issues:
Includes thoughts on an ongoing relationship as well as on becoming a granddaddy. Discussion questions provide a great opportunity for personal or group study.