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Trade Paperback
224 pages
Sep 2005
Bethany House

No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women and Children

by Paul Coughlin

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With the release of No More Christian Nice Guy, author Paul Coughlin explores the world of passivity. He breaks down the lies that claim that being a nice Christian is the same as being a good Christian. He sees them as opposites. In chapters that are short in length but not in content, Coughlin gives evidence and opinions on why you, a “Christian nice guy,” should join the “good guy rebellion.” This is quick, convincing, and honest material.

In the spirit of previous books, such as Wild at Heart and Every Man’s Battle, this text is aimed just at men. It contains topics that include definitions of masculinity, dealing with the work place, investing in family life, enhancing relationships with your wife, finding sexual fulfillment, and interpreting distorted messages of men from the church. Without question, these are controversial issues. Coughlin doesn’t flinch. He addresses them bluntly and unapologetically. Also, Coughlin avoids the tone of a lecture. He frequently inserts quotes, biblical references, and his own stories that can fall anywhere on the spectrum between humorously heart-felt to deeply serious.

The only true gripe that comes to mind is the fact that Coughlin tends to hammer over and over the major themes he wants the reader to retain. Several times I wanted to say, “Hey, Paul, the nails are in, now you are just splintering the wood.” Other than this slight overabundance in places, I was hard-pressed to find any other faults.

This book is recommended to all Christian nice guys who want more from their faith and their existence. Come on, men, the time is now to take a stand, free yourself from passiveness, feel your emotions instead of hiding them, stop avoiding conflict at all costs, and start living the life you could and should have by the grace of God. -- Andy Culbertson, Christian Book

Book Jacket:

Living Bold as a Christlike Man

"Recovering nice guy" Paul Coughlin points the way for all men who yearn to live a life of boldness and conviction--like Jesus. Using humorous examples from his own life, powerful and poignant stories, and vivid examples from contemporary culture, Coughlin shows how he learned to say no to the "nice guy" syndrome. After all, Christian nice guys aren't always so nice. In the name of appearing Christian by being agreeable, they can lie, keep secrets, manipulate, duck responsibility, and much more.

Using the biblical model of Christ as his example of a real man, Coughlin shows men how to become both gentle and bold. A powerful challenge and a hopeful message that elevates the true biblical model of manhood above prevailing views in the church and contemporary culture, this important book helps men discover who they are in Christ and how to live for Him. Includes a foreword by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.