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Trade Paperback
250 pages
Jul 2004
Harvest House Publishers

When Homosexuality Hits Home : What to Do When a Loved One Says They're Gay

by Joe Dallas

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In Joe Dallas’ compassionately conservative When Homosexuality Hits Home, he addresses biblical responses to homosexuality and homosexuals. In response to the array of cruel and ignorant resources advising Christians to take all manner of ungodly approaches to homosexuality, Dallas’ words read like the first sensible, balanced book on the subject. From his unique perspective, Dallas shares insights into the homosexual mindset and lifestyle as well as insight into the family’s reaction to their beloved “coming out.”

Joe Dallas plays an active role in the restoration of families affected by homosexuality. Having counseled and known both the gay and straight sides of the arguments, Dallas’ expertise is not to be taken lightly. A highly readable book -- not too scholarly to intimidate, not too watered down to bore -- Dallas speaks with wisdom and fresh insight into the issues that affect homosexuality. Broken down into chapters applicable to particular persons affected by homosexuality (spouse, parent, relative), plus chapters of introductory and explanatory materials, this book is an invaluable resource; it is easily navigated for specific circumstance-appropriate counsel.

By introducing the Comfort and Conscience guidelines, Dallas says we can navigate the waters of relating to homosexuals within our own set of biblical standards. If discomfort results from attending a gay relative’s party, that is reason enough to avoid the situation (examples are provided for explaining the situation to the relative). If my conscience disagrees with hosting a gay couple, it is not mandatory for me to give in to their request (or condone) the behavior in my home. Potential arguments are laid out with an explanation of the argument, background, points to consider, and a sample response.

This book does not read like so many “hot topic books” which are heavy on appeal, light on substance. This is truly a well-thought, helpful presentation of timely material. The author has a compassionate, Christ-like look at the issues, and provides suggestions for drawing boundaries and negotiating further relationship. Dallas also offers a shoulder of comfort for the hurting and confused Christian who finds himself having to deal with this difficult subject. I highly recommend this book for all pastors, counselors, and laymen who find themselves dealing with, or having the potential to deal with, any aspect of homosexuality. Any person who finds himself facing homosexuality in his home, family, or even with a close friend would benefit from reading this book. -- Suzanne Rae Deshchidn,

Book Jacket:

The heart–wrenching declaration that a loved one is a homosexual is increasingly being heard in Christian households across America. How can this be? What went wrong? Is there a cure?

In this straightforward book, Joe Dallas offers practical counsel, step by step, on how to deal with the many conflicts and emotions parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters or any family member will experience when learning of a loved one’s homosexuality.

Drawing from his own experience and from his many years of helping families work through this perplexing and unexpected situation, Joe offers scriptural and compassionate advice to both struggling gays and those who love them.